Do women deliberately gets pregnant while dating or are they actually unplanned?

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Life is full of surprises. Isn’t that what they say? How about your pregnancy? Was it a total shock? According to the CDC, about half of all pregnancies are unplanned. A lot of us have to wonder, how exactly do all of these unplanned pregnancies happen? They are called the “oopsy” babies and the “birth control” babies. But what do the moms have to say? Are they truly unplanned or are they secretly planned babies?

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I found myself in the midst of two high profile medical doctors talking about whose fault is it when unplanned pregnancies occurs while dating. Doctor A insisted that a woman can never take in if she doesn’t really want to as she is capable enough of preventing the pregnancy by all means possible

20130621-092119.jpgwhile Doctor B was of the opinion that sometimes the preventive measures fails and then who is to be blamed?

20130621-092519.jpg. That got me thinking and I had to interview some ladies and here’s what I got:

20130621-092655.jpgIts been going on for years, at least that’s what some people would have you think. Us gals have been tricking and trapping men into having babies. Now why would we do that? It used to be because women wanted to get married and a baby was a sure-fire way to make that happen. But now having babies before marriage isn’t such a big deal, so why do moms still feel the need to be sneaky about getting pregnant # Stella#

20130621-093328.jpgThe reasons that came up were:
1.Its easier to ask for forgiveness than get permission.
Sandy, a mother of four says she has had a couple of unplanned pregnancies. “My husband did not want any more kids,” she says. “I wanted another baby and he knew that. He put all the responsibility on me when it came to birth control. I felt like if he really didn’t want any more kids he could do something about it. I knew he wouldn’t be happy if I got pregnant but I thought that he would be okay once we had the baby.”

2. Don’t ask don’t tell.
Diane was dating her boyfriend for several months. When he moved away they started having a long distance relationship. Diane says she went to see him for a visit and that was when she got pregnant with her son. “We weren’t using birth control. I knew that it wasn’t a good time to be having sex. I just kind of let things happen. I figured if he didn’t say stop then I wasn’t going to say anything.” She says she had convinced herself that she wouldn’t really get pregnant and if for some reason she did then it was fate and meant to happen. She describes it as playing baby “Russian roulette”.

3. What he doesn’t know won’t hurt him.
Michelle says the baby bug bit her when she was in her twenties. She had a new boyfriend and just decided she wanted a baby. She says it was more of an impulse than anything else. Her boyfriend presumed she was on the pill and she just didn’t tell him otherwise. She says “I tried a few times to get pregnant. I intentionally tried to have intercourse when I knew I was ovulating. Some of my friends tried to talk some sense into me but I wasn’t thinking clearly at the time.”

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From these reasons that were given,dies it actually mean that women deliberately takes in in while dating? Is there nothing like unplanned pregnancy? I will love your views and opinions about this! Thanks

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